The next few months under COVDI-19 are not going to be easy for any of us.
But the greatest level of fear is being faced by the elderly population with the very real posibility of not surviving this gloabal pandemic.
But perhaps this new threat is a timely reminder that death is never very far away, and it often happens much quicker than expected or hoped. Whether through existing illness or sudden accident, corinavirus is just the latest Avon lady knocking on the door. We can welcome her or ignore her, but she’s standing on the other side waiting for you.
Not helping this fear of the unknown suring the pandemic is the removal of essential social connections. All the clubs, meetings, groups and visitors which break up the isolation of age taken away as a necessary element of social distancing protections.
It is a lonely and frightening time, and many of us are faced with a new kind of helpless waiting.
So if our minds are going to spend a little more time thinking about the potential for death, why not find a more productive use of those fears?
We all worry for the people we leave behind, but how many of us actually think about what we leave for them to sort out after we’ve gone? A pre-paid funeral and a written will is the easy part.
But think about the home you leave behind. In the midst of their grief, can loved ones ever really feel comfortable sorting and clearing your home of personal belongings after you have gone? So many memories, unknown elements of a life and basic clutter to wade through.
Knowing your family or friends will step up to the challenge, is there anything you could do in advance to help make it easier for them to sort through decades of your life?
So what can you do?
- Throw away some rubbish
- Get advice on potentially valuable antique or vintage items
- Write names and dates on photos so your history lives on for others. Better still, do it in person with your kids.
- Write a journal of special moments shared with your family and friends.
- Write a list and location of any hidden valuables.
- Start sharing family history and stories.
- Locate ctiical documnets like house deeds, shares, passports, birth certificates etc
- Write a list of family medical issues, not just your own, but of your extended familty. This information may save lives of your kids or grandkids in the future.
- Write a list of small sentimental items in your home and who you would like them to go to. Include a short story on where they came from. Don’t forget to have some casual dicussions with family members of small items which may have speacial sentimental value to them.
It’s not unusual to think about death during this time, so why not channel it?