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The Final Moves Story

The Final Moves Story

Memories of Nanna’s garden

When I had to help clear my grandmother’s home in 2017, I was conflicted.

I was naturally devastated and deeply grieving over her recent death. Clearing the house I had known since I was a child seemed like such a final move. But beyond that it felt so intrusive and wrong.

Yet at the same time I loved it. You see I’m a nerd. A bonafide self-declared nerd who loves sorting, counting, collecting, categorizing and simplifying chaos. I’m also an emotionally sentimental sap who gets way too caught up in the history of a life hidden in photos, notes, journals and those quirky personal items left behind.

I also found that I offered a unique role in the clearing. My Mum and uncle were obviously grieving the more intense loss of their mother. Some decisions were really tough for them to make, and some areas (like the wardrobe) were naturally more difficult than others to tackle. So my distance and level head helped a lot in easing them through those moments to keep things moving. I also like to think I saved a lot of things from the bin by convincing them to at least put aside items they weren’t sure if others would want.

The memory of this experience stayed with me, and the seeds for Final Moves were planted.

What if I could bring my practical brain, my sentimental emotions, my writing skills, my nerd tendencies, and my lifelong desire to spend more time with the elderly together towards one dream? So in January 2020 Final Moves was born.

Our objectives are simple;

  • Create a hub of support and assistance for the elderly as they approach end of life
  • Build a library of resources to help others tackle the daunting task of clearing the home of their loved one.
  • Introduce a compassionate range of fee for service options for those needing physical assistance with preparing a deceased estate for handover or sale.
  • Link people to trustworthy and affordable support services

I continue to share my experiences and teach my kids to respect and revere our elderly members of society on Final Move at a time.

Best wishes

Sandy

Planning to help your loved ones left behind

The next few months under COVDI-19 are not going to be easy for any of us.


But the greatest level of fear is being faced by the elderly population with the very real posibility of not surviving this gloabal pandemic.

But perhaps this new threat is a timely reminder that death is never very far away, and it often happens much quicker than expected or hoped. Whether through existing illness or sudden accident, corinavirus is just the latest Avon lady knocking on the door. We can welcome her or ignore her, but she’s standing on the other side waiting for you.

Not helping this fear of the unknown suring the pandemic is the removal of essential social connections. All the clubs, meetings, groups and visitors which break up the isolation of age taken away as a necessary element of social distancing protections.

It is a lonely and frightening time, and many of us are faced with a new kind of helpless waiting.

So if our minds are going to spend a little more time thinking about the potential for death, why not find a more productive use of those fears?


We all worry for the people we leave behind, but how many of us actually think about what we leave for them to sort out after we’ve gone? A pre-paid funeral and a written will is the easy part.


But think about the home you leave behind. In the midst of their grief, can loved ones ever really feel comfortable sorting and clearing your home of personal belongings after you have gone? So many memories, unknown elements of a life and basic clutter to wade through.

Knowing your family or friends will step up to the challenge, is there anything you could do in advance to help make it easier for them to sort through decades of your life?

So what can you do?

  • Throw away some rubbish
  • Get advice on potentially valuable antique or vintage items
  • Write names and dates on photos so your history lives on for others. Better still, do it in person with your kids.
  • Write a journal of special moments shared with your family and friends.
  • Write a list and location of any hidden valuables.
  • Start sharing family history and stories.
  • Locate ctiical documnets like house deeds, shares, passports, birth certificates etc
  • Write a list of family medical issues, not just your own, but of your extended familty. This information may save lives of your kids or grandkids in the future.
  • Write a list of small sentimental items in your home and who you would like them to go to. Include a short story on where they came from. Don’t forget to have some casual dicussions with family members of small items which may have speacial sentimental value to them.

It’s not unusual to think about death during this time, so why not channel it?